WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART

Desire or Indifference?

by Victoria Thornton

Without a strong desire for marriage you can let indifference seep in and destroy your chances for having the marriage you want. Desire is more than just merely wanting something. According to the dictionary, desire means - the feeling that accompanies an unsatisfied state, but desire is more than that. In the faith realm, your desire locates you. A little desire will usually produce little results. A great desire – great results. The reason for this, is because desire can be at different levels.

For instance, a person who spends more time and dedication on his sport will be a better player than someone who practices occasionally. Desire is also important for another reason. It determines your level of commitment: the greater your desire, the greater your commitment to seeing what you want realized. As a result, desire is a major factor in receiving the one God has for you.

Many write me almost upset that they have a strong desire for marriage, but what they don't know is that their strong desire for marriage will lead them to seek the Lord wholeheartedly.

A strong desire for a mate will motivate you to seek out whatever you need to do to have your marriage come to pass. But, if your desire happens to wane because of issues that might spring up, realized it isn't the obstacles you are facing that will cause you to stumble but the strength of your desire as you face those hard circumstances.

Be keenly aware, that satan will see to it that you are confronted with hard circumstances to steal the Word from your heart. And, if you know that satan isn't going to allow anything to enter the earth realm that is against his agenda without a faith fight, it will help you to overcome the wiles of the devil.


Therefore, if satan can successfully get you to become indifferent to the will of God for your marriage, he has robbed you because the amount of indifference that fills your heart for a Godly mate can shorten, prolong or even forfeit the receiving it. Thus, it is important that you do not allow indifference to overtake you.

Here are some things that can sow indifference in your heart:

1. Hard circumstances,
2. Delay,
3. Seeing others married before you,
4. Disappointment,
5. Ignorance of the Word,
6. Not fully understanding how faith works,
7. Not being in faith but supposition,
8. Walking by sight,
9. Seeing your mate with someone else
and many more.

So what can you do to guard your heart against indifference? The best way to guard your heart against indifference is to not allow it to take root in the first place, and the way you do that is to stop it at the thought level.

For instance, if you are faced with a hard circumstance that your mate is seeing someone else, the primary way not to become indifferent is to avoid pondering on it and allowing discord to grow. Instead, every time you think about this situation, counter it with the Word.

Counter it with scripture because if you don't, it will put you in a negative state of mind that is hard to break free from. Meditating on how bad the situation is will change your attitude for the worse. It will either make you angry or make you sad, i.e., very belligerent or that of a victim. So to avoid this negative downward cycle, stop it before it starts.

Let me give you a real life example. My mate had begun seeing someone else. After all the prayer and time I put in, I had become upset that this had happened.

As a result, I began to dwell upon how unfair this situation was. I began to dwell upon it so much that I became angry and it almost destroyed what God wanted to give me. As I became more and more angry over the situation, I decided that I didn't care anymore. As I let this attitude grow in my heart, indifference set it. When indifference set in, I stopped praying. Because I had stopped praying and believing God for His promises, time began to click by.

As more and more time passed, I decided I no longer cared about the Will of God for my marriage. Prior to this, I had a compassionate heart for my mate, but now it had changed. Because I harbored these feelings in my heart, God stopped revealing things to me. Instead of receiving revelation knowledge regarding my mate, I had sown very hard circumstances into my life. Almost everywhere I turned and almost every circumstance I faced reminded me that I needed my husband. One example that brought me to my knees was when my car kept breaking. One day it was the ignition, another day the radiator which left me on the side of the road at night.

All before, when I had car trouble, God always had someone around me that knew something about cars, but this time it was different. As I sat in my broken down car, on the side of the road in the dark of night not knowing how I would get home, the first thought that entered my mind was, 'if I had my husband, I could just call him and he would deal with it, but instead I am here alone'. Finally, a policeman arrived to help me and I got home safely but I knew I had to get back in right relationship with God and get back to believing for my mate.

When I did, miraculously my car stopped breaking down and I knew I had been through a Jonah-type situation. After I repented, it took time, to change my heart back to one of compassion for my mate and this is why I am warning you against becoming indifferent. You waste more time! You may feel so hurt and justified that you might feel that becoming indifferent is your right but the only person that you will hurt is you. I know. I have been there and I am asking you not to go that way. Don't succumb to it. God always wins. Jonah learned it. I learned it and hopefully you don't have to learn it that way too.

In closing, whatever situation you find yourself in make sure as you stand in faith for your mate that you do not allow indifference to hinder or delay the Will of God for your life.†