"Will I Ever Marry the Person God has for Me?"
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A friend called lamenting that as she awakens each morning, welcoming a new day, she is not that excited because one day ends up looking just like the previous day before. It could be a beautiful, sunny day but she is plagued with the same questions she asked herself many times before. As the days, months and sometimes years pass by, you may be asking yourself the same heartbreaking questions, "Will I ever get to know my mate?" "Will I ever marry the person God has for me?"
My answer is, 'Yes'. I believe you can because you have already two things working in your favor. The two things I am referring to are 1). Desire, and, 2). Faith. If you didn't have desire, you wouldn't have pondered these questions but sat about to take matters into your own hands.
Second, I believe you can receive your mate due to your undeniable faith. Now if you have been with this a while, you are tired of hearing about faith. You know you have faith and I believe you. I believe you have the faith of God that is able to move mountains; but allow me to state, the obvious, about my friend and her walk of faith because maybe it could help you.
If you have awakened anytime time wondering if you will ever marry your mate, this statement reveals a misunderstanding of the God kind of faith. Pondering a question of this kind is a sure sign that my friend has fallen into doubt and James 1:6-7 states, But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
DOUBT
To waver after you have been waiting so long to see the manifestation of your mate may seem natural, but the Bible states, we walk by faith not by sight(II Corinthians 5:7 ) and if you have fallen susceptible to these kinds of thoughts I want to help you. We all falter in our faith and faith failures occur more times then we like but that's where the 'fight of faith' comes into play. The fight of faith, in this instance, has more to do with combating negatives thoughts that spring out of what we see or don't see.
So the delay in the manifestation of your mate is not so much a factor of what is going on, but what you do about what is going on. If you are bombarded with these kinds of thoughts, you will have to use the same tool Christ used against the devil--the Word.
Mat 4:3 And when the tempter came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.Mat 4:4 But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.
Mat 4:5 Then the devil taketh him up into the holy city, and setteth him on a pinnacle of the temple,
Mat 4:6 And saith unto him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.
Mat 4:7 Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.
Mat 4:8 Again, the devil taketh him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them;
Mat 4:9 And saith unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt fall down and worship me.
Mat 4:10 Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.
When Christ was confronted with negative speaking thoughts from the devil, Jesus quickly responded by quoting the Word and you will have to do the same. If satan tries to discourage you by reminding you of the circumstances, you will have to overcome him with the Word. If you don't, you will eventually let go of your faith entirely and satan will win and you will lose by not receiving your answer.
If you have reached the place my friend is in, wondering if she would ever see her mate, then you have been listening to satan's negative thoughts for far too long and need to get out of doubt. If that's where you are, let's get out of discouragement and get back into faith so you can get your answer seen.
What my friend can't see is that her doubt is causing the delay and not the other way around.What my friend doesn't realize is, her doubt is causing her faith not to work. My friend looks out at her circumstances and when she doesn't see anything happening she falls into doubt and when doubt has entered her heart, her faith won't work. Frankly, I'll need to ask her, "what does her faith and circumstances have to do with each another?" If she is looking at her circumstances to dictate whether she has the answer to her prayer or not, then she is definitely not in faith.
A person should only be looking at the circumstance to gage what's happening in the spirit realm. For instance, you know it's time to put gas in your car when the fuel tank indicator light falls close to the 'E' mark or, you know to grab an umbrella when there are thick, dark, clouds in the sky indicating a storm is on the way; you know these adverse cirumstances are telling you it's time to act. Therefore, when you see nothing happening after an extended period of time, let it be an indicator to you that you need to act. Let those circumstances remind you that is is time to examine yourself to see if you are still in the faith or let it drive you to seek the Lord to show you if you need to do something different.
Because if there was no doubt present in her heart, she wouldn't care what the circumstances looked like because she had a Word from God and that settled it. Remember Abraham? He was so strong in the faith that he didn't care that his own body was dead. He didn't care how old he was or that Sarah had passed her childbearing years, not one temporary circumstance moved him off the Word God gave him.
Rom_4:19 And being not weak in faith, he considered not his own body now dead, when he was about an hundred years old, neither yet the deadness of Sara's womb:
Rom 4:20 He staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God;
Rom 4:21 And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform.
Only with doubt in her heart can my friend survey the days going by and ponder if she will ever meet her mate. If she was strong like Abraham, she would be excited for each new day because it was bringing her closer to her mate's arrival. And the reason she would be assured that her mate was on the way is simply because she was basing her belief on the Word only, not the circumstances.
There are many times I would falter because I would start looking at my circumstances wondering what was going on, then I would grab my Bible and run to God and He would assure me my mate was coming. Hearing a Word from God would help in taking my eyes off the circumstances and put them back on God.
However, when things have gone on for far too long and I needed more direction, I would pray in the spirit. Spending an extended period of time with the Lord in prayer, by praying in the Holy Ghost, would definitely result in answers. Praying about my mate UNTIL the answer arrived was my goal. Therefore, if you can only spare three hours one day and two hours the next day, don't stop praying in the spirit about this one topic until you hear from heaven.
The Bible says, ALL who seek will find (luke 11:10). You will find the answers you seek if you won't quit. He will answer you and you have to trust the fact that He keeps His Word.
So if you are concerned about the time that is passing regarding seeing your mate, first, check your faith to make sure doubt hasn't entered your heart. Second, pray in the spirit asking the Lord for help because if there is something preventing the manifestation; it won't move until you move it. Ignoring it will only cause more delay.
The difference between waiting in expectation for the prized possession and waiting because you have stepped out of faith is this: God will show you little signs along the way that your mate is coming but if you have stepped out of faith and nothing is happening that is exactly what you will see-- nothing.
Therefore, if you are not getting little signs along the way that God is working on your answer and it has been an extended period of time, then it's time to seek God.
If you are concerned about the time that has passed or need reassurance, seek God now. But be encouraged, delay is not always denial and delay is not always a problem that needs to be addressed. When I finally met my mate, I realized why it took the time it did.
I found out God had to move my mate from another city in the U.S to a city God moved me to a short time before. My mate had to look for job, interview and get hired at a company that just happened to be near me. My mate had to register and get into the college where I was currently studying and even choose the same college major as mine so we could have classes together.
On my side, God had to uproot me from my prior state in the U.S. and lead me to the city where I resided. God had to lead me to get hired at a company that would end up being right next to where my mate was going to work and deal with me to change my major so we could have the same one to take the same classes, in the same building where we would constanly cross each other's path. God and His angels were hard at work bringing our lives together. So all those life changing events took a little time and with the frustration I felt, growing tired at times, I later understood why.
So be encouraged. Keep the faith and never let the circumstances speak louder than God's Word. Finally, if too much time has passed and you are truly concerned, make sure you aren't in doubt. Pray in the spirit and let God tell you what could be holding things up. God is on your side.
